Ever finish a gathering and wonder how much of what people learned actually sticks? Here’s the single best closing question I’ve used to turn insights into immediate action, and why it works every time.
The Gap Between Learning and Doing
We spent two and a half days together in a conference context. People picked up all sorts of nuggets and learnings and ideas, and I wanted to put those into action in some way.
Even though a lot of these learnings are going to be applied back in real life, I kept thinking: what’s the question that can shorten the distance between learning and transfer.
And believe one of the best ways to learn something is to teach it.
The Closing Question That Changes Everything
So check this question out:
“What is a gift you received in the last two days? And on your way out, pair up with somebody and share that gift with them?”
What is a gift? Maybe if you want to add a little bit of framing: what’s a gift that came in the form of an idea, or a learning, an aha, an insight? Go and take that gift and teach it to somebody else. Give it to somebody else on your way out.
The idea is that the closing exercise is inspired by this prompt, where everybody’s giving each other gifts that they received at your gathering.
Why This Works for Any Gathering
And I think it works. Ideally, everybody gets something out of a gathering. Even if it’s an hour-long session, ideally they got something that was useful, and they can share it or teach it, transfer it to somebody else in a really quick amount of time.
That’s the essence of the idea. Super practical, super easy.
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Reflection without action is procrastination.
I really liked the quote from Adam Grant that extended reflection without action is a form of procrastination.
Being a professional speaker, facilitator, trainer, I’ve been to a whole lot of gatherings, events, conferences. And there’s a narrative in conference world that we take these full-page notes, heaps of notes of ideas throughout the conference, and then they collect dust afterwards. We go back to our life and the fires start and whatever else.
So I love this idea that extended reflection without action is a form of procrastination. The best way to close something, the best closing question is, “What’s a gift you’ve received?” and give it to somebody else, because it takes that gift and immediately puts it into at least some action before they walk out of the room.
The Proof Is in the Memory
And I haven’t studied this, but I would bet if you run this exercise and then come back two years later and ask people, “What did you share with someone in the closing?” they will remember that thing.
Whereas if you come back two years later and say, “What’s a nugget you got from that conference you attended two years ago?” it might be a little fuzzier.
Teaching something to another person locks it in. It’s the difference between passive reflection and active contribution.
Try This at Your Next Gathering
This was one teeny tiny practical example of which I share many, many, many more of in The Contribution Method Live Masterclass that I teach once per year. If you liked this concept and you would love to have a toolbox or refresh your toolkit with a whole bunch of really practical ideas that map from the beginning to end of a timeline of the gatherings that you’re hosting, speaking at, facilitating, you should totally check it out.
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