Chad Littlefield was recently featured in Forbes by Kathy Caprino, senior contributor. Kathy connected with Chad while first interviewing him on her podcast, Finding Brave. Catch the episode below to hear their conversation about how to ask questions to build trust and connection on teams. They also unpack the art of listening with curiosity and holding conversations that mean something.
We filter everything we hear others say through our own lens, oftentimes crafting in our minds what we plan to say next, rather than giving our friends, loved ones, and colleagues, our full attention. When we stop and really consider what the person is saying, our conversations grow deeper in meaning and value.
Kathy went on to highlight the meaning of a quote Chad shared by Alan Alda, actor and communications trainer, who said:
“… Real listening is a willingness to let the other person change you. When I’m willing to let them change me, something happens between us that’s more interesting than a pair of dueling monologues.”
When we listen without considering our willingness to let the other person’s words potentially change our views and values, we remain unmoved by the words and experiences of others. By being open to the possibility that someone’s words and wisdom can really have meaning for us, we expand our communication skills. Listening with curiosity, fluidity, and respect give our conversations a chance to build connections that strengthen our bonds with those around us.
The way we listen has the power to change what people say. Change the way you listen and you change the conversation.